You have big dreams for your life. You are on the path to making your dreams come true. As you move along, you might find mysterious things start to happen… Family pops up out of nowhere. Exes are finding you on facebook. Friends have a new crisis every week. You are feeling oddly bored, sleepy, and overwhelmed. It sounds like there is a block being stirred…
You, being nice, have listened calmly and showed up for everyone around. You have slept more than ever and just can’t seen to get any work done. You are not sure what the heck is going on.
If you are finding yourself spending more time on others and not getting what you want…you are being too nice. You are being a really good girl and it might not be working well for you. Being nice will only get you so far in life. It is a wonderful attribute, but being in the good girl vibe can result in you being taken advantage of, used, and walked all over. Nice women let others go first. Women like Beyonce to Hillary Clinton would not be where they are if they were nice girls all the time. At some point in your life, you have to step up and do you. You have to stop caring what others think about what you do. You have to be unapologetic about being you. You have to bring your inner bad girl to the table to get to the next level.
5 Ways to Rally Your Inner Bad Girl
1. Open your eyes.
Look around and see things as they truley are. Is anyone giving you shit for having a bit of success or going after your dreams? Is someone not wanting you to change. Are you noticing a friend suddenly belittling your dream? Do you feel run down even though you haven’t done much? Notice where it is coming from. They are not wrong. YOU need to create stronger boundaries. You need to reset the tone to your life. What is acceptable? Own that and don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. You set the tone. Rally your inner Bad Girl and set the tone.
2. Listen to your Bad Girl Playlist
If you don’t have one, go -run- and make this playlist right now! Music is a great way to express your feelings and get into the mood of your choice. Find songs that make you feel powerful, strong, and in charge. Take time to listen to these songs as a way to express your power. Need a few ideas: Beyonce — Flawless, Iggy Azalea — Work, Pink — So What, Taylor Swift — Bad Blood.
Whenever I am feeling out of my power, I will put on my Bad Girl Playlist and let the words speak for me.
3. Take Action
Got a new project your working on? Do it. Dive in for hours and get it done. Keep going. The minute you start will be the hardest few minutes. Yet, as you continue all the resistance, fear, worry, doubt, etc, will melt away. It will be a distant memory that will be replaced by what you have created. The very things that are making you feel powerless don’t want you to take action. Throw up your Bad Girl Vibe and do the damn thing anyway. Then, you win.
4. Make YOUR wishes a priority.
Ever not walked into a kitchen to return your plates because you didn’t want to disturb someone else? Screw that. It is time for you to make your desire a priority. It is OK if someone doesn’t like what you are doing. You can’t please everyone. You are not Nutella. You are you. Each moment you feel yourself hesitate, wait, stall, go around, or just not do something because of what someone else will think or feel……do it anyway. You will likely soon see it wasn’t that big of a deal anyway. Plus, you will begin to realize you are worth doing what you want in the world. Stop letting others get in your way. Make YOU a priority.
5. Go have FUN!
Sometimes the only thing left to do is have fun. Walk away from whatever seems so important and go do something you love. Ok, I know I just said take action. But, if that doesn’t move you into your power….go have FUN! Why? When you are doing what you love, your attention is no longer on the thing you are resisting/fighting. Where you attention goes….so does your energy….which means you get more of what your attention is on. Put your attention elsewhere, on the things you love to do in your life, and watch the BS fall away. Having fun is healing and revitalizing! You will come back with more energy and ideas. Plus, there is nothing haters hate more than being around love and happiness. Bye-bye haters.
So, now go out into the world and turn up your Bad Girl Vibe! You have been good long enough.
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