Here's how to know if you might not be:
-you are not getting what you need.
-you feel exhausted often.
-you are constantly giving to others.
-you are angry at e-v-e-r-y-b-o-d-y and the world.
-you can't find your way out of a problem.
-you always support others no matter what.
Take a look at Britney Spears.
The costs of letting someone else set the intention, tone, flavor, or vibration of your life is HIGH! When someone else is setting the tone, you can loose your TRUTH in your health, wellness, money story, and relationships.
You know your truth. You know how powerful you are. You know how much you can have. You know the love you can attract. You understand how much money you can make.
Why? Because it is your truth.
If you find yourself saying, "I know that I can have it all!! Why is it not happening???"...*HINT* someone else might be setting the tone to the quality of your life.....and you are letting them.
Take a moment and consider if there is anywhere you are feeling like you want MORE?
It doesn't matter so much WHO is setting the tone in your life but that YOU begin to take charge.
3 Ways to Take Charge of Your Life
1. Set an Intention for Your Day and ROCK IT!
You are the creator of your life period. From the first moment you wake, try and set intentions for your day. Make this intention something that you can sum up into one word that represents a feeling. Do you want to feel happy today? Inspired? In love? Amused? Set that intention.
When something, or someone comes along, who is in contradiction to YOUR truth of the day....hold your truth! Ex. You want to beam with happiness and talk only with happy people. If you have a friend who is a total downer -always has a problem for you to solve- let them know that you really care, you hear them, and share your intention for the day. This might mean setting a boundary with this person. It might even motivate them to do the same for their life.
2. Take Responsibility for Your Life.
Own up to your life! Every single thing you are experiencing in your life is a result of an action (or lack of action) you have taken. You are the creator of your life. This means all the good and bad you experience is a based on you. When you take full responsibility for your life, you move more into control. You are no longer a victim. Life is no longer out of your hands. You have full control. When you are responsible for your life, you will learn from any mistakes you make in your life and take action to move forward from there. It's when your not responsible, that it is always someone else's fault...ie...someone else is setting the tone.
3. Take BOLD action.
The biggest thing you can do in setting the tone in your life is to take big, bold, action! Dream, make a decision, create a plan, and begin taking steps toward it every single day. Write it all down on a list and take bold action! Do sit doing nothing. You can set the tone, say happiness, and choose in every moment to do things that make you happy. Perhaps it will be booking that vacation, going to the spa, or quitting that job you hate for a new job you love!
What this does is take you out of being an observer of life and into being the creator of your life. Instead of dreaming you start to see your dreams come true! This is because you are taking direct action consistently and telling the world what you want for your life!